I would also argue that looking at porn is a self-worth issue for both men women. He has taken away the lies and silence that held my husband for so many years before he told me about his struggle.
When one becomes upset with him/herself, going into “another world” can be an easy escape from reality—one that always appears to fulfill and bring pleasure no matter what the real-life circumstances may be. He has restored our self-worth and made us feel like royal children (as we all are! He has completely brought back all intimacy that was lost and not only that, has made it better!
My husband revealed his struggle to me just a few months before we were married and it has been a part of our lives ever since. Though this struggle is hard, your marriage is worth it.
It can be great, it can be happy, but it can also be hard.
finds pornographic messages being sent between his wife and another man via a social network.
Without respect for oneself, a marriage will be brought down. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” “Undefiled” means “without stain or blemish.” Porn is a stain. She has been married to her husband, Matt, for nearly 5 years and has two “fur-babies” (Kevin the dog and Ella the cat).
Without knowledge of how you were designed (in God’s image) and without living in light of that knowledge, a marriage will suffer. It’s that nasty grass stain that will never come out of a white t-shirt. Matthew says, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” No arguing with that one. Erin holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Master’s degree in Counseling.
Just as one may go towards alcohol or drug abuse in situations of frustration and low self-worth, so someone else can turn to porn. And He, by far, is greater than any sin of adultery.