Are we saying that we believe that it's sexually ideal that women take up as little space as possible, that we're at our most attractive when we look itty bitty compared to our male partner?You don't need a women's studies degree to know that that's whack.
The man is the shorter partner in only four percent of heterosexual pairings. If you ask any height-obsessed woman — or me, a decade ago — they'll probably feed you some line about a tall man making them feel "safe" or "tiny." But let's unpack that for a second.
What are we saying when we say we want a big man to make us feel tiny?
I've encountered a lot of women who say that they only want to hook up with taller dudes because they want to feel "tiny" and like they're being "ravished" in bed.
To which I can only reply: dude, have you ever actually been ravished?
All facts that ring true to me — my dude pulls his weight around our house, and was game to date me even though I was 28 and he was 24 when we met.